Remembering Mizah

The queen of hearts, a graceful light of kindness, a champion of participatory design.

Mizah illuminated the lives of everyone she met – family, friends, peers, neighbours, strangers. She brought love and beauty to everything she did, and was also a quiet force of determination and bravery. There was a simple joy to her life, one that she shared with her husband, Adib Jalal.

She also lived a beautiful life filled with purpose as a designer and community organizer through Participate in Design (P!D), the non-profit design organisation that she co-founded. To her, it was never about what design is, but what design can do for the community. P!D was built with her values and vision, and the impact of her work continues to reverberate in Singapore and beyond.

In May 2020, Mizah passed away from Stage IV Colon Cancer at the age of 33. Adib and her family continues to love and honour Mizah for all the joy that she brought into their lives. The team at P!D continues to carry Mizah’s legacy into the future.

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Words

I wrote these for you.

  • 100 days. 7 years.
    Today marks a 100 days since Mizah passed. It would also have been our 7th wedding anniversary. It’s hard to not see it as more than a coincidence. Truthfully, the pleasure, honour, and privilege of the life we had together was all mine.
  • The importance of cake
    It would have been her 34th, but 33rd was to be her last. Though we cannot celebrate this cake with her, we will always celebrate everything about her.
  • Walking, thinking
    “There was nowhere to go but everywhere.” – Jack Kerouac
  • A listening, watching, & reading list for the Cancer journey
    Podcasts, video clips, and books that gave Mizah as a cancer fighter and myself as a caregiver some hope, strength, comfort, and wisdom.
  • Tidying as Grieving
    Tidying the house after losing your favourite person who you shared it with is hard. Do the ‘konmari’ thing of expressing your gratitude and saying thank you to the things that have given your favourite person joy and comfort. That ‘spark joy’ thing however is a lot more complicated.
  • Some days are terrible, some are better
    How am I to capture these couple of weeks wholly, in all its splendour and range of human emotion?
  • 7 days ago
    It has been 7 days of waking up to the emptiness on the other side of the bed. There is a choking pain that sits between my throat and chest. It was Mizah’s wish that I find the words in me again so that I can write my way through my grief and offer some light to those who may have to go through what we had to. It will be difficult, but for her, I must try.

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You can read and contribute to the tributes on Instagram through #RememberingMizah. Reach adib through email: mizah@adibjalal.com